Thursday, April 13, 2023

Reitha Jo Jones 1925-1993

 A Great Blessing To Me
My Aunt Jo

Being raised around someone who wasn't deemed as "normal" became the "normal" for me. I never saw my aunt Jo through a different lens than just who she was. I was never afraid to be around her and it all seemed very normal to me. Therefore, throughout my life, I was able to view ALL people with deformities as normal. It was the greatest blessing that could have been given to me as a child. Thank you, Aunt Jo, for being a special gift to our family. 

Reitha Jo Jones was born on 24 Jan 1925 to Joe Carroll Jones and Ava Ella "McNair" Jones. She was the first child born to them, and it was a struggle to bring her into this world since Jo was stuck in the birth canal. After an extended labor, forceps were finally used. Jo was born with physical deformities. Everyone left, including the doctor, thinking that there was no way that Jo would survive. Directly after birth, Ava’s mother, Ella (Ella Vermell "King" McNair), took Jo and worked with her, clearing her passageways of mucus, etc. Ella breathed life back into Jo, and she lived to be 63 years old. 




A son, Martin Frank Jones, was born in 1926. When my mother, Carolita, was born in 1928, Ella and Charles McNair took Jo into their home in order to help Ava, because she would have had 3 infants in diapers.  They taught Jo to walk and potty trained her, and when life returned to normal for Ava and Joe, Jo returned home. 

This was during an era when people kept those with disabilities from the public eye.  Jo did attend school with her brothers and sisters until it became too obvious and difficult.  She was teased by the other children.  They eventually took Jo to the Masonic Hospital in DallasTexas, and were told that nothing could be done for her.  They were given the option of leaving her there to be taught life skills, but Ava did not have the heart to leave her.  They brought her home and Jo lived with them until the end of her life.  



Picture on the left is just before their trip to Dallas.

My mother, Carolita, watched over Jo throughout their early years in school. Carolita was a tomboy and wasn't afraid to take anyone on who was making fun of Jo. Mother remembers in the early days of going with her mother to Vernon to shop and Jo was always in tow. Mother remembers returning to the car and having onlookers peering into the car with Jo hunkered down in the floorboard trying to avoid their nasty gazes. It would make Mother hopping mad. And when this sort of thing happened at school, Mother was not afraid to fight for Jo.  Jo would sit beside Mother in class so that Mother could help Jo navigate the classroom, learning to read and write. They did this until it became too complicated. Jo began to stay at home and learn the life skills from Mimi. 

Ava, my grandmother, was the angel who cared for Jo for her entire life on earth. Ava taught her many life skills, such as house cleaning, helping in the kitchen, ironing, and Jo did beautiful embroidery, making kitchen tea towels for everyone and for every occasion. The tea towels that I mostly remember were the sets including a towel for each day of the week with each day having a design depicting the chore for that day, i.e. cooking, laundry, ironing, etc. I, to this day, carry on the tradition of making these tea towels. 














Joe Carroll Jones History Sheet

 


HISTORY SHEET
Joe Carroll Jones
a.k.a:  J.C. Jones, Carroll Jones, "Skinny" Jones
The grandchildren called him Pappy or Pap


Compiled by Nancy Long (grand-daughter)
February 2013
Source: Interview with Carolita Jones Quillin 1993
 

            Joe Carroll Jones (my Pappy) was born to Martin Harmon and Mattie Belle Jones on 19 Feb 1902 in Whitewight, Fannin Co., Texas.  By 1910, the family had settled in Foard Co., Texas, and 6 sons had been born with a daughter to follow in 1919.  Martin Harmon’s father, Martin Ervin Brooks Jones, lived with them and was still living with them in 1920, so I feel certain that Joe Carroll knew his grandfather well.  The family was in the same location in 1920, with older brother Albert and his new bride, Joicy, also living with them.  J.C.'s father, Martin Harmon Jones, worked mainly as a sharecropper, working the land for other people and grubbing out mesquite trees to make pastureland for others.

            Joe Carroll (Pappy) attended a one room school through the 8th grade and then dropped out.  He courted Ava McNair in a horse drawn carriage.  He once took her to a party and left with another girl.  His brother, Hugh, had to take Ava home.  When they decided to get married, Ava’s father, Frank McNair, was adamantly against it.  Frank knew the night that they were going to ask him if they could get married, and he went on to bed before they got home.  They went in to his bedside anyway to ask for his permission.  He said she could if that is what she wanted, but that he would not bless the marriage.  Even though Frank was a minister, he did not even attend the marriage.  They were married on 8 Dec 1923 in the parsonage in Vernon by Dr. Mima.


            After the marriage, they lived with Martin Harmon and Mattie Belle for a while.  Joe Carroll farmed all day, and when they could establish themselves in a home, he also began working in the cotton gin.  His job there was to poke the cotton through the first machine to keep it from becoming jammed in the claws that rotated to shred the cotton.  The machine snagged his glove and pulled his whole arm into the machine which was brushing his head.  They worked day and night to save his life, and the recovery lasted for the better part of a year.  There were complications with the arteries and veins rotting and breaking loose, causing it to hemorrhage.  He eventually lost his thumb, but the hand was saved.  This was his left hand, and since he was left-handed, he had to learn to do most things with his right hand. 

            Early in their marriage, they were also faced with complications during the birth of their first child, Reitha Jo, in 1925.  It was an extended labor and Jo was stuck in the birth canal.  Forceps were finally used, yet Jo was born with physical deformities.  Four more children (Martin, Carolita, Doris, Faye) were born between 1926 and 1931 with no further problems.  This was during an era when people kept those with disabilities from the public eye.  Jo did attend school with her brothers and sisters until it became too obvious and difficult.  She was teased by the other children.  They eventually took Jo to the Masonic Hospital in Dallas, Texas, and were told that nothing could be done for her.  They were given the option of leaving her there to be taught life skills, but Ava did not have the heart to leave her.  They brought her home and she lived with them until the end of her life. 

            They lived and raised their children in the Thalia community during the Great Depression.  Thalia had a nice school, several churches, a grocery store, gas stations, a lumber yard, 2 cotton gins, and when the highway was paved, the community thrived.  They had to work hard, but the family was always clean, clothed and well fed. 

            When Joe Carroll finally purchased a truck, he no longer worked in the cotton gin.  He began working for the Highway Department hauling supplies for them.  Eventually, he purchased 2 more trucks and kept his brothers in work.  As a part time job, he used one of his trucks as a school bus.  In his younger years, these trucks and his temper were his downfall.  At that time cars had to be cranked, and in cold weather, that proved problematic.  His temper would flare, and he was known to throw the crank through the crank case, so his temper could be expensive.  At other times, he would rant and rave, and Ava would always say, “That’s enough, Carroll.”  He was a worry wart and Ava would get frustrated with him.  Carolita remembers Ava telling him. “You act like you don’t have any faith at all.”

            About 1934, Joe Carroll and Ava purchased a butane refrigerator which eventually exploded and burned down their home “on the hill” and everything in it.  Fortunately, the family had gone for a ride and no one was home.  They had only the clothes on their backs and the children were all barefoot.  They drove to Electra that night to stay with Ava’s parents.  Joe Carroll returned to Thalia, and when he found a place for them to rent, he sent for the family.  The community had a shower for them to help replace some of their things.  Eventually, they were able to make a down payment on a home in downtown Thaila in 1939.  Joe Carroll moved another small house onto the back of their property for his parents, and Ava took care of them for the rest of their lives. 

            Joe Carroll’s father died in 1950, and sometime around 1957 or 1958, Joe Carroll and Ava moved to Crowell, Texas.  Joe Carroll also moved the little house that his parents lived in and located it near their property in Crowell so that Mattie Belle could live near them.  Joe Carroll farmed on his own and worked for a large landowner, Guy Crews.  He made good money because it was rich land, and he would get a portion of the crops for working the land.  When he got enough money together, he purchased his own land, about 180 acres closer to Crowell.  He still worked land for Guy Crews, but Guy’s nephew proved to be a thorn in Joe’s side because he wanted the land.  The family did well living off the land.  Joe Carroll eventually hired a large Mexican man, Ike.

            Joe Carroll loved riding horses and he always owned a horse.  I remember one very special horse, Ginger, and oh, how he loved that horse!  He rode quarter horses in parades, and he lived for the Santa Rosa Roundup.  He rode in that parade every year, and I remember seeing him ride Ginger.  He raised pigs on his farm, and he would take me out to see the piglets.  He told me that we don't name the pigs because we don't keep them, but I would name them all for myself anyway. He also had cattle, but I wasn’t very interested in them.  It was obvious how much he loved the land and how much he invested in it.  In May 1971, he was named as the first Conservation Farmer of the Year by the newly organized Foard County Soil and Water Conservation District.  He was presented the award at the Lions Club luncheon on May 18, 1971.  During the prior 3 years, he had accomplished : 8,327 feet of parallel terraces; 2,809 feet of diversion terraces; 2 acres of grassed waterways; 96 acres of conservation cropping system; 96 acres of crop residue management; 96 acres of contour farming; 18 acres of pasture management.  It was a proud day in his life and he said, “It gives me a good feeling knowing I have fixed my land up the best way I know how.”

            Both Joe Carroll and Ava were devout Christians and were an important part of the First Baptist Church in Crowell, where Joe Carroll was always a deacon.  Joe Carroll taught a men’s Sunday school class and was a lay person.  He would be called to fill in at area churches as preacher.  He was also a dedicated Mason and was a huge influence on my dad, Truman Bryan Quillin.  Truman re-dedicated his life and was baptized as an adult because of Joe Carroll. 

            Joe Carroll could often be found down by the town square in Crowell.  He would gather with his buddies and they would play dominoes.  He was nicknamed “Skinny” in his early years, and most people in Crowell referred to him by that name.   He also loved to play croquet. Polished shoes were a must and he wore a shirt and tie every single day.  I remember many times his tie was braided leather with a silver clasp.  He lived his life well and gave of himself to others and the community.  Through him other people found opportunities to better themselves.  I loved him…he was my Pappy!

            Late in life, he became dependent on Vicks 44 cough syrup because he always struggled with inner ear infections and a cough.  He contracted a non-infectious meningitis which affected his nervous system, and the last several months were a struggle for him and those who loved him.  He died on May 9, 1972.  











Wednesday, April 12, 2023

My Direct Hulsey Lineage

Ava Ella (Jones) McNair (1904-1985)

Ava's mother:
 Ella Vermell (McNair) King (1883-1964)
            m. William Lazarus King (1859-1949)

William Lazarus King married Emily Melisaa Hulsey


Emily Melissa Hulsey (1862-1933)
            m. William Lazarus King

Emily Melissa's father:
Jefferson Parks Hulsey (abt 1828-1909)
            m. Sarah Haney (1826-1900)

Jefferson Parks father:
Pleasant Hulsey (1792-1865)
            m. Elizabeth Lucille Byrd (1795-1845)

Pleasant's father:
James J Hulsey (1754-1827)
            m. Ann ? (1758-1831)

James J's father:
Charles Hulsey (II) (abt 1725-1792)
            m. Hannah Witt (1725-1805)

Charles's father:
Charles Hulsey (bef 1695-1729)
            m. Susannah ?


Tuesday, April 11, 2023

My Direct King Lineage

 Ava Ella (McNair) King (1904=1985)
            m. J.C. Jones (1902-1972)
Ava Ella's father:
William Lazarus King (1859-1949)
            m. Emily Melissa Hulsey (1862-1933)

William L King's father:
John King (1829-1864)
            m. Ava Rilla Hood (1832-1885)

John King's father:
James King (1804-1884)
            m. unknown, possibly ???Berry (1806-1860)
    

Monday, April 10, 2023

My Direct Bridges Lineage



Mattie Belle Bridges
(1878-1971)
        (mother of my grandfather, J.C. Jones)
            m. Martin Harmon Jones (1874-1850)

Mattie Belle's father:
William Lewis Bridges (1844-1911)
            m. Harriet Ann Springfield (1846-1911)

The following was written in 2016. Now in 2024, I feel 90% sure that William's middle name was LEWIS.
The Bridges line has been frustrating, as I know that the documents are there....if I could only understand the middle name.  See the note below that I created in 2016, when I decided to stop chasing this family connection. 

Bridges Family History

 

Unfortunately, I have never been able to "crack the code" on William L. Bridges.  Mattie Bell Bridges, his daughter,  is my link to this family and I knew her as a small child which gave me confidence as I began my research. Records and letters were sent to Lucy Jones Day by Dorothy Autry, Burwell Jones' daughter, and so much was known about all the Bridges' 12 children.  I felt confident that Mattie's father's name was William " L" as I found a hand written marriage document from 1870 and a newspaper article in the Abilene Reporter about a family reunion given by his daughter Lucy Ford dated October 1945, all of which reflects his name as William "L" Bridges.  However, Lucy Day states on Mattie Bell Bridges' death certificate that her father was William "E" Bridges, but I believe that is in error.  And still...others have followed him as William "M" Bridges.   By taking away a middle name, there are MANY William Bridges in documents in the same location during the same time period, including censuses and military listings.  During that period of time, documents do not state other family members which makes it difficult to establish a link.  William's history is given on the History Sheet of Harriet Ann Springfield.  It appears that they were well-to-do upstanding people.

 

Nancy Claire Quillin Long

5 March 2016

Sunday, April 9, 2023

My Direct Ewing Lineage

Paternal side

Truman Bryan Quillin, Sr.'s mother:
Merphia Ewing (1901-1985)
            m 1) Paul Bryan Quillin (1897-1957)
            m 2) Oscar Clifton Hart ((1893-1974)

Merphia Ewing's father:
Frederick Short Ewing (1869-1962)
            m. 1) Emma S Frances Woodall (1877-1910) **
            m. 2) Mary Loren "Mollie" Short McKinley (1881-1971)

James Henry Ewing (1829-?)
            m. Malinda Dillard (1834-1880)

William P Ewing (abt 1804-abt 1864)
            m. Sarah Pentenny (1811-1860)

James Ewing, Jr. (1758-1810)
            m. 1) unk
            m. 2) Ladovsey Dillard (1785-1821) **

James from Pocahontas Co WV Ewing Sr. (1721-1802)
            m. 1) Sarah Mayes (1728-1818)
            m. 2) Sarah Edwards (1728-1818) **

John Ewing of Carnshanaugh Ireland (1648-1745) **

John Ewing of Carnshanaugh's father, William, moved the family from Stirlingshire, Scotland and migrated to Ireland as a result of war. John and his brothers eventually moved to America. 
I have followed some intricate research on this line. Research is difficult with the brothers who immigrated and landed in America, all with the same names as their ancestors in the Old World and then giving the same names to their sons in the New World. I believe that my sources are close to having an accurate account to the Ewings that moved West which incorporated my lineage. Hopefully, as I continue to blog about this family, these sources will prove my research. 

Has Easter Changed?

                          Nancy Quillin Long    26 April 2011

Easter morning has changed over the years, but technology hasn’t done away with the traditional egg hunts.  I feel certain, though, that today’s children would not know what to do with an Easter bonnet or white gloves.  Easter, as I knew it, saw a deluge of new hats, white patent leather shoes, white gloves and sometimes a duster to match our dresses.  Since Easter can come in the dead of winter or in ninety-degree heat, outfits for the occasion included long-sleeved coats which went over the dress.  Of course, we wore the dresses all summer, but the duster never made it out of the closet again.  We wore lace trimmed socks and carried purses to match our patent leather shoes.  The Saturday before Easter was spent washing and rolling our hair.

Easter Sunday, of course, is a very holy day for the Christian world.  We honor Jesus Christ for dying on the Cross for our sins and being resurrected so that we can have everlasting life.  He Is Risen!  And mother would respond, “He Is Risen, indeed!”  I’m not sure how Mother managed Easter morning with the special outfits and hairdos and also remembering to have everything ready for after church, but I very rarely saw her frustrated.  She just did what she had to do, and she took care of me well.  

Church attendance was at a premium with everyone in their new attire.  After church, we would quickly change clothes, jump into the car, and head to Crowell, Texas, a 30-mile drive west of Vernon.  It was there that, as a child, the celebration began.

I had a large extended family on my mother’s side, which included Mother, and her sibling's families: sister Reitha Jo Jones, brother Martin Frank Jones, sister Doris Marie Jones Jackson, sister Dorothy Faye Jones Lynch and all their children, and I feel that my cousins were some of my best friends.  Pappy (Joe Carroll Jones) was a layman and a deacon in the First Baptist Church.  He was very capable of delivering a sermon.  Mimi (Ava Ella McNair Jones) was the one who worked hard to prepare for our Easter family gathering.  Throughout the week, she would prepare much of the food and bake all different kinds of cakes and pies.

And then the real fun began.  The men folk would hide the eggs – I never knew the Easter bunny.  For several years the hunt was staged at my daddy’s terraced farm and amid the newly planted wheat crop.  If not there, it would be at Pappy's farm or in Mimi and Pappy’s backyard.  I know kids today still hunt for Easter eggs, but they believe that “real” Easter eggs are plastic eggs from Wal-Mart and crack apart to reveal money and candy.  The eggs I searched for were individually wrapped colorful candy eggs, and THAT was the prize.  A side note – I remember as a Campfire Girl, that we would dye hard boiled eggs and decorate them for the State School.  Our adult leader would take them to the school so that the patients would have an egg hunt…. but I always wondered if they really ate the eggs.  It was fun as a group, though, to prepare the eggs.

So… some things haven’t changed, yet I worry about our society that has become so politically correct about not offending the non-Christian religions that we are losing sight of the greater impact of Easter on our lives.  Gone is the mention of this holiday in any ads or news articles, and Good Friday in the big city just seems to be a vacation from work and school.  Many people work on Sundays anyway, so Easter is no different.

However, He Is Risen Indeed and Easter will always be a celebration of our eternal life.

 


1958


Easter Sunday 1966

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